We all want good things to happen to us. We all want things to go well. We want promotions. We want to find the love of our life. We want our marriages to work. We want our kids to grow up to be Dr’s and Lawyers. We want to lose weight. We all want to accomplish things and be happy. Yet we all sabatoge.

We sabotage our lives. We sabotage our jobs. We sabotage our marriages.  We sabotage our goals and dreams. We sabotage those things that are important to us.

Fear, inadequacy, insecurity, discomfort, etc. are at the root of self-sabotage. Rather than moving forward, we cut the strings, we undermine out efforts, we quit in a way we can blame anyone and anything but ourselves. We become paralyzed with the thought of what happens if I actually am successful.  People will expect more of me, I won’t be able to keep it going. I’ll be seen as the fraud I am. To avoid this we say to ourselves; fail now, fail early and everything will be OK.

Failing is OK.  Self-sabotage is an entirely different story. The key is to fail with everything you have behind it. It’ll feel pretty good. What you don’t want to do is fail on purpose, that hurts.

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